The Art of Letting Go

I'm no expert in relationships, so first I'll start by letting you know my views on what a relationship is.
Personally, the most simplest explanation is that:

Relationships are about getting to know someone on a deeper and intimate level. 

Relationships don't imply commitment nor much devotion, it involves your feelings; how you feel about that person, your interests about that person, and the heart to want to share a part of yourself with someone else: letting that person see inside your heart and through your eyes. 

Relationships doesn't have to be something physical, but it has to absolutely involve something emotional. Most people describe this as chemistry or psychological bond that makes you care for someone other then yourself, that allows you to make certain sacrifices and compromises to please that person.

I say relationships doesn't "imply commitment nor much devotion" because depending if you are in an open relationship or an exclusive relationship, whatever it is, it's still a relationship. Love is a tricky thing. Sometimes you don't have to want to be with that person for the rest of your life, sometimes that person is not your soul mate, yet the love is still there... love is a bond that's made of trust, experiences/memories, and expression. it's hard to form and hard to break.

This post goes out to the brokenhearted, the lost and lonely ones wanting to be loved back, the heart-aching person that have just lost someone very precious and dear, maybe that person was your everything. 

You are the "giving" person in the relationship, the one that always seem to take the shorter stick in decision making, and the one that expresses your feelings like an open book. You may feel that, you did it all for love. In the name of love, no matter how much you think you are "doing the best" for someone, it always backfires. You end up hurting yourself by doing things you don't have the heart for, acting like someone else, and giving up parts of yourself to be with someone who isn't willing to do the same for you. Relationships have to be a consistent balance of "give and take", and when you are constantly giving, you get taken for granted, get used, get played, get degraded,  
YOU NAME IT!
but it's also true being a giver is also a strength. You have the power to not give as much, or to not give at all. When you look at it this way, it's easy to blame yourself for the damages or you can also look at it in the opposite way in which you're completely innocent and continue to question what you did wrong in order to understand why it ended the way it did.

Truth is, the couple wasn't compatible to begin with, the couple didn't fully understand each other's values and perspectives, the couple loved each other in different ways.

Relationships are not suppose to be easy nor is it suppose to be hard. Sometimes it doesn't make sense and sometimes it just feels right. One learning outcome is that a break up = the end = over = you're not suppose to beat yourself up, cry gallons of tears wondering what went wrong, you're suppose to coolly detach yourself, look back at it as a lesson learned, then you'll be able to find things about yourself- what you want, what you like, what you don't want, what you dislike and proudly look forward to something better.

Dash Berlin- Disarm yourself, release that fear, disarm yourself and hold me near!

Heartaches don't heal completely, you just gotta let that heart break apart so you can have a new one. No matter how much you try to fix things, when a heart is broken, it's left broken; what's done is done, the only thing you can do is forgive and leave it in a shoebox somewhere hidden in your closet.

When a person really loves you, that person's heart would break 10x more for every tear drop that falls on your face. 

Words from Kaskade- "Every morning when I wake I tell myself, don't be fooled by your emptiness, there's so much more room for happiness".




To my readers,

Everyone deserves to be happy. your happiness is not determine by someone else, it's you, you create your own happiness