True Colors

As I get older and experience different social events, I've learned to pay attention to the less noticeable behaviors such as body language and tone of voice. A year ago, I would have avoided associating with people who I call "fake" and "two-faced". These are the kind of people who act one way towards one person and flips a 180 on another person. Marketable people who seemed to be robotic in their reactions, prepped for every single possible conversation, and basically people who sell themselves for fame or to expand their social network. There's always a hidden agenda.

I admire a genuine heart and personally struggle with expressing my exact thought or feeling because I want the person I'm talking to, to truly understand me. Now, I've come to realized that "understanding" a person is more then just getting a message across. The way you approach it also says a great deal about the message.

Just recently, I find myself adapting a foreign role that I don't completely understand. I'm in an environment whose language, habits, ethics, culture differs from my own. I try to be cooperative, be professional, but I feel like I have to constantly check myself so that I don't appear to be rude or offensive in my attitude, persona, and appearance. In this specific situation, when both parties are unsatisfied with each other and are persistent with their own traditions, how can you find common ground? How can you connect when both are trying to change each other? It becomes a mad house, and whoever gives up their pride first, is the loser; or do we both simply lose no matter the outcome?

People don't change. Old habits die hard. But I still have faith that people can get along, things will work out if you stop trying to change others or yourself. Instead, accept and be open to differences and simply treat others the way you want to be treated. Don't pretend or think you know everything about a person. Stop judging others based on your own perception or past experiences. Try listening.
And let people express themselves freely in the present.

To my readers,
Be yourself & love yourself because you deserve to be recognized in your true colors.